mothers-in-law

Sounds a big job you have taken on Kaz.
How often do you visit?
The only reason I ask is because if you put lots of things in pots can you get them watered often enough.
It would be awful for her to have to watch plants dying for want of water, and being unable to do anything about it.

 

ah good point pete

i had given that some thought in actually choosing the pots, partly because the soil is more clay than anything else the lawn never really dries enough so that you would want to sit on it ! so with this in mind i thought if i semi bury the pots then put in a good mix of compost, sharp sand, my compost and some fish, blood and bonemeal the plants would have a good soil base they should hold the water better as they are semi burried and i get down at least every 2 weeks but the man up the street who usually butchers everything will water the plants under MIL's supervision then the man wont feel that he is no longer needed lol.

 

John that would be lovely if you can spare it

 

ive got kwanso daylillie i could split and send you,they get on with it their own,ok in a border or pot i think x

 

too kind

 

Sadly it seems its always the way. I know loads of examples where only one or two members of a family can actually be bothered to help out. You have my utmost respect for being that relative.

I don't know what kind they are, but the fairly cheap lillies that come from B&Q in the lead up to mother's day are lovely and pretty tough. I bought my mam some a few years back. Now she has loads. A few years ago I bought some from 'casualty corner' (the bit of B&Q where they put their 'dead' plants for sale very cheap) and they came back and did well.

Another suggestion I'd like to add that I haven't seen in the thread so far is common old Sage. I think because its so well known for its role in stuffing, people forget it is also a beautiful, low maintenance shrub. Its evergreen, fragrant, and once established it has masses of pinky/purple spikes of flowers from about mid May right through to December, and it doesn't care one bit if you forget to water it.

 

ive got sage clueless add that to the list kaz if u like x

 

thank you clueless, but i am also being selfish i Dont see my parents i have no idea if they are still on this earth, my father i have not spoken to since i prosecuted him, and i havent spoken to my mother since she told me i deserved what happened and that i shouldnt have shamed the family by washing dirty laundry in public.
BUT this woman has always been kind and there for me and my husband and i would do anything for her, she has so much pain and she never complains
she is the woman that i would have chosen to be my mam, i get so angry with her other child because he just uses her for money and never gives anything in return, but i digress

i have been to B&Q and had a few bargains today
sage great idea i already have some lavender

thanks julie i owe you a big favour

 

Hi Kaz,

Some perenial

Herbs may be a good idea, I find oregano just keeps on and on and then lemon balm keeps coming back every year but of course nothing in winter. I have some hellebores (babies at the moment) which I could pass on once they're a bit bigger. Is mum in law north of you? If so maybe I could help out now and then. Best wishes. pm me if I can help.

 

hiya west
no mam is down pembs in h/west area but kind of you too offer, i would love to take you up on the hellebores, if you can spare tham later that would be fantastic thank you, just give me a yell when ever

 

Hi Kaz,
Good luck, will let you know when hellebores are ready.

 

I can also give you a helabore and go ta spare peony rose cutting you can have.

3 lavendar cuttings
oxsalis blooms in the sun and these can split and come up every year.
Hellebore
Peony Rose