where did you???

get your memory working ,question? (where did you propose??).

being such a romantic myself>> my girlfriend ,now my wife,were :yho::Dwaiting for the last bus ,to her home. as one does,, a wee bit of snogging saying goodnight!!!!




I PROPOSED IN A BUS SHELTER!! a proper romantic?.:thmb::ntwrth:

 

There is a nice pub over the road from Portsmouth harbour called The Ship Anson. I did the whole one knee thing in the pub, armed with a nice ruby ring. The wife (who was then obviously just my girlfriend) did her best to seem surprised, but she'd overheard me on the phone a couple of nights before consulting my mate on how to guess her ring size. When I slid the ring on, it may as well have been a hoola hoop for how much too big it was, but when she said yes, an older lady who unnoticed by me had turned to watch, give a little round of applause. I think the old dear was more moved than my now missus was, but it all turned out right though. We were engaged for 7 years before finally tying the knot 3 years ago.

 

We were in our local, The Marlborough. It was a Saturday night, in the lounge, and I said, " do you want to get nmarried"? She said yes straight away. 10cc were playing away on the jukebox, " I`m Not In Love".:gnthb: It`s been downhill ever since.:D:D:D Only joking.

 

:hehe: What a good thread.

Well 39 years ago my very romantic [] hubby to be and I were in his mini -that was the only place to do our "courting" and he showed me his diary which had a picture of a ring in it! He never did actually ask me :hehe: We're still together though so that must say something...yes I'm mad!

 

We were having a meal at our local Italian,nothing special, and my husband being the old romantic that he is said "well s'posed we better get hitched then".


Needless to say I said "do you call that a bloody proposal!" and made him ask me properly a few days later. Because I am a sod I said no.


A week or so later he asked again this time of his own free will and properly, so I said yes, what took you so long? They need telling these fellas sometimes lol.


It's been that way ever since really.

 

And he`s got the thumbprint on the back of his neck to prove it.:lollol::lollol::thumb::D

 

I find that's the best way David lol.

 

haha Lollipop - love it!

 

:hehe: Lovely story Lollipop, he asked you in his own way, that is the main thing. :luv:

 

A mate of mine was telling me, he'd been out all day, first to work and then straight to the pub afterwards. When he got home, his girlfriend announced she was pregnant. His reply was apparently "Oh.... I suppose we'd better get married then".

 

Well, my ex proposed after a hike in the Blue Mountains outside of Sydney,Australia. Said no at the time, as wanted to go visit Canada first, meet the inlaws etc., as they would obviously be a big part of my life being away from my own family. Asked again over a lunch and a bottle of white on a beautiful spring day........then I woke up ten years later and realised that what he really wanted was a younger mother to do everything for him! lol So, with my new partner for last 12 years, not married, but happy. And.....he knows better than to spoil me on Valentines Day......treat me well every other day of the year, and do the flowers thing when you feel like it......it means so much more (to me anyways) to do it because you want, not because Hallmark says you have to! Have an aquaintance whose partner treats her terribly all year, but come Valentines - all's good!

 

Yes. They had three kids together in all, before ultimately splitting up and getting divorced.

 

As too often happens Clueless unfortunately.

No marriage is cast in stone, but if both are prepared to stick it out then you're in with a better chance. Although no one knows what is around the corner, and I have only been with my hubby coming up for 10 years in April, so what do I know? Nothing.


Still, we are both deeply "in love" with each other and whilst there may be times when I have looked at the foxgloves and then him and then back to the foxgloves again, maybe even taking in the monkshood, I find the moment passes.....................eventually.

 

Yep. I think there are two general reasons why people split up. There are those that just aren't compatible anymore (or never really were). Another of my mates falls into that category. He married a girl who he knew cheated on him regularly, and he cheated on her regularly too. They were from different worlds. He is from a struggling working class background, she came from the posh bit, with parents who are both high fliers. They had no common interests.

Then the other thing that busts people up is the way society is going. Older folks often tell us that a marriage takes work and compromise. I agree with that. However all too often these days you'll have each partner thinking they are entitled to do whatever they want regardless of how it affects the other. For example one might think its ok to put in loads of overtime at work and then go straight to the pub with their mates after, while the other might be left at home bored. If that works then great, if it doesn't then there should be room for compromise. Society puts pressure on folks too. The wife and I are quite old fashioned in some ways in that we are happy with the arrangement that I go out to work to earn money to feed us, while she stays at home to do the housework and look after our little son. It works for us. Many of our friends think its a bit wrong, and I should also do the housework and she get a job. Its not for them to decide and it works for us. If the wife told me she wanted to get a job, we'd have to work it out between us. What would we do about childcare, how would we split the household chores etc, but we would work it out. Another couple in that situation might find themselves arguing, with my counterpart sticking to his guns and saying 'you stay at home and that's the end of it' while the wife's counterpart sticks to her guns and says 'I'm getting a job and that's the end of it'. If you don't compromise, then tension just builds up, and something has to break.

There have been a few occassions (before my son was born) when we'd be out boozing with mates, and she would decide she'd had enough and I would want to carry on. My mates would mock me as I asked the wife if I could stay out (I'd put her in a taxi home of course) saying I was under the thumb. I didn't see it as being under the thumb, I saw it as considering my wife's feelings, rather than just ditching her in favour of my mates. Likewise I know that sometimes she stayed out with us depsite being bored and tired and pretending she wanted to be there, because she was considering my feelings and knew that since moving away I don't see my mates very often these days. Its all about compromise. Without that, unless both partners happen to have exactly the same personality (how boring would that be?) then you need compromise, other I can't see how it could ever work.

 

Very true claire, having been there, done that and got the t-shirt .... I will though say two people stand a better chance of working through a marriage if both are willing. In my case, I was willing to work on it ... I just didnt like his girlfriend :wink:


Anyway, back to proposals ... I was asked after a flaming row. Guess it was his way of thinking it would stop us splitting up lol. Looking back that should have been the biggest sign ever huh ? I dont regret getting married though. Was a wonderfull day We did the whole stately home thing and my dress was amazing :D

This time round ..... am still waiting to be asked :hehe: .... after 7 years s00k lol