Moving house, doubts creeping in!!!

Today I had planned to go to the estate agents and arrange having my house put on the market, but I chickened out!!!!:( I woke up this morning and just couldn't bring myself to go!! I don't want to stay here but am suddenly unsure about moving to Wales. I was chatting to a neighbour yesterday and she completely put me off, kept saying "it's VERY rural" !?!, and when I said that I had never been to Wales she looked shocked and said "Oh my goodness"!!! :OUCH: This is gonna be harder than I imagined!!

Val

 

Is the move necessary, or just a dream move?

If its the latter, would it not be a good idea to spend as much time as possible in the chosen area and see if it is all you expect it to be?

In any case, there is always anxiety attached to change. That doesn't always mean its a bad idea though.

You should also remember two things about people:
1) People always push their opinion as fact, even if their opinion is purely imagined. You need to have a look at your chosen destination and decide for yourself what it seems to be like.
2) People are doom mongers. People thoroughly enjoy picking up on someone's anxiety, and building on it. Take your neighbours words with a pinch of salt. I'm sure parts of Wales are very rural, as are parts of everywhere else. If you don't fancy a rural life, choose one of the urban centres. I don't know Wales either, but I'm fairly sure they have towns there.

 

I would not listen to your neighbour in this case ofcourse some parts of Wales are rural but that's what's nice about it, your neighbour probly just dosnt want you to go :D
Also It's Wales, not Alaska

 

Hi Val

I'm really just echoing what Clueless has already said.

I really think it would be wise to spend some time in Wales before you commit to anything. Why not take a few long holiday lets, or something, so that you can really get to know the place before you do anything permanent? On the other hand, don't let some daft neighbour put you off if it's something you really want to do. Some people just enjoy being negative; how many times have I announced that I'm about to board a boat to France, only to hear all the 'my ferry hell' stories?

Yes, parts of Wales are very rural, and country people can be a bit suspicious of newcomers. It's not just Wales - you still get it in parts of Kent, for goodness sake, and there isn't a village left that's very far from a motorway! Years ago a chap appeared on the Today programme, complaining that he didn't feel comfortable in rural villages, as he was from an ethnic minority and people looked at him a bit funny. John Humphries pointed out that people from his Welsh village looked at all strangers a bit funny.

Which bit of Wales do you want to move to?

 

Val, why do you want to go to somewhere you have never been to??
I have only moved to places I didn't know due to job changes.
It does sound risky if you have no idea what the place is like. Town or country, North or South, they are very different.

 

Blimey Val,

didn't realise that you've not been there:DOH:

No, don't move somewhere you've not spent time in. I had been to North Wales a lot before I moved there, but still regret the decision. It took me a lot of effort to get accepted there & even then the locals smashed the hell out of the house every time I went away.

Apparently it was my fault for buying a house there.

Nothing nicer than coming back after visiting my Mum & Dad for Christmas than finding a large rock wedged in the middle of the new double glazed kitchen window, or the cold frame smashed to bits, or the back gate kicked off its hinges.

As for being rural, well, there are large towns in North Wales, but there is an area bigger than Greater London with no roads in it, so I guess thats a bit rural.

Dai will have a go at me for this post, I know not all of Wales is like that Dai.

You could move to Anglesea though, the kids that burned down a holiday cottage there were actually saying on the tv news that it was the owners fault that they burnt it down, the Sais Bastad shouldn't have moved here:DOH:

 

They liked you, Zig. Sais illegitimate child is a term of endearment. Anything involving the verb 'marw' means it's time to go.

 

I see,


Newyddion - Cerddwr wedi marw ar fynydd

 

I'd say come down to the West Country Val, but its full of Panthers, Wolves & Landslips.

 

Come on, Dai, ChittingKaz, Madahlia, Pamsdish and anyone else I've forgotten. Tell Val all the good things about Wales.

 

My dad went on holiday to Wales once. I asked him what it was like. He thought about it, and then answered, "the scenery was nice, people were a bit weird though, a bit ignorant really... just like round here, except for the scenery".

 

Did you mean to say what were you thinking of John?

 

Even the Prince of Wales doesn't live there!

Does he even have a home there? Apparently so:-
The Prince of Wales - Llwynywermod

If you wanted to live in Wales, Val, there must have been a reason.
If that reason is only fanciful then it would be a disaster to stick your eggs in a basket and migrate without a REALLY serious rethink and then visit the area.

Wales is not Surrey.

Every time I've been there all the shops, Pubs and Hotels seemed to be staffed by Londoners or East Europeans.
I thought the Welsh had gone elsewhere - maybe they knew I was visiting! - before Armandii says it.

Apologies in advance to Dai.