13 year old father

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  1. Pro Gard

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    The tax payer will Aaron via social services.

    The parents themselves are still in education therfore most likely social services will have the baby fostered if the Parents parents cant look after it.

    The whole thing is very sad for all involved.
     
  2. youngdaisydee

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    As long as she is loved by her Parents and Family Aaron thats whats most important, what do you remember about your childhood! My Parents brought up 7 of us with a low income, but what i remember most is the love that came unconditionally... Some of the kids i work with are fostered and all they want is to with be there Mum...Bless them..
     
  3. Sussexgardener

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    I agree with you, loving parents are very important.

    But I also know my parents were married at 22 and waited until they were 28 before having children, in order to give them a decent home.

    I also believe parents should be adults, not children.
     
  4. Banana Man

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    Bring back stoning I say, godless heathens !
     
  5. Sussexgardener

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    And you an administrator, tut tut:hehe::hehe::hehe:
     
  6. Banana Man

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    Do you think the revenue from the tabloid money will go into trust for the baby or on 20 B&H and a hoodie from Primark ?
     
  7. youngdaisydee

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    Yeah I agree Aaron Children shouldn,t be having children, but she's here now and can't be sent back, if in the future the family can,t cope then thats the time to be talking about Fostercare or Adoption...
     
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    I always tend to stay out of discussions like this because I believe that what the papers portray is only what's going to sell there paper
     
  9. walnut

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    It's a failure of the parents of these kids, but like a lot of parents these days they don't know where their kids are or what they are up to.
     
  10. Lyn

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    It's very unfortunate when this happens.
    But happen it does more often than is reported.
    My Dads next door neighbour had a baby at 14 she kept the baby helped by hers and the fathers family she is now 32 and as 3 more children .
    She is married ,not to the first father, they have a house and both work.
    They are fantastic parents.
    So it can work out to be good.
     
  11. Helofadigger

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    One doesn't have to condone (or should than be condom?) the parents of the newborn but the parents of the parents if you get my meaning?

    Being a young parent myself (17 when I had Dan) all I wanted out of life was a loving family home something I never had when growing up. I know I was lucky because I was able to have my dream and keep it true, two great kids and a wonderful although sometimes slightly crazy hubby.:hehe:

    I wouldn't change a thing of my life after all it makes us what we are, I have to admit our boys are not in any hurry to be parents themselves I mean they are on to a good thing and they both know it.

    I have always been very frank with my boys and have always told them 'Put one on' after all it's not only a unwanted pregnancy one is saving them from.

    Parents need to love, care, understand and simply have time for their kids money doesn't come into it but love does.

    Sadly regarding the young parents I don't thing love came into the discussion when things started to happen if you pardon my french!:hehe:Hel.xxx.
     
  12. Jack by the hedge

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    I'm not so sure. I see placards, aimed at girls, displayed on London buses and the Tube which ask "Age 13-19? Had unprotected sex? Condom split?" ,and then go on to offer various services to the young "ladies" involved. State -sponsored adverts aimed at children as young as 13 might almost be seen to be condoning under-age sexual activity by some.
     
  13. Ivory

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    Well I was brought up by an extremely young mom (well, let's say it, I was brought up by my grandparents until I went to school and then I was in school 8 hs a day and outof the ways), and I can say that although the love was there, I do wish there had been more stability in my childhood, and that my mother would have been more capable of her task (yes, I was an accident).
    That said, there are many incapable mothers of any age, so it is kind of a hope less task. I wish these two kids had no such thing as a child of their own, seriously the mind boggles, but if we begin to really screen parents for their parenting ability it will leave a very small percentage of available families, and those probably will not want any children :D.
    All in all I did not turn out too bad, so I guess even the most improbable parents can botch something good together, at least if their families help along a bit.
     
  14. clueless1

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    Well, lets look at the apparent facts. A girl of 15 years old obviously saw fit to have unprotected sex with a boy of just 12 years old. From his photo, he doesn't even look that old. If she knew the potential consequences of unprotected sex, then that means she was clearly very irresponsible. Far too irresponsible to be trusted with the welfare of a baby. If she didn't know the potential consequences at her age, then then that would mean she was both too immature, and intellectually challenged to be trusted to look after the welfare of a baby.

    If the boy and the girl were both the same age, it wouldn't be quite so bad, with both mother and father being almost adults, but the boy father is only 13. He was 12 when they had unprotected sex, she must have known this (from his appearance he wouldn't have got away with lying about his age). In law, to have sex with someone under the age of 13 is automatically statutory rape even if there is consent, and could be considered abuse. So in either case she is automatically a criminal and dare I say it, a sex offender.

    I said it before and I'll say it again. If the ages were swapped round, ie the girl was 12 and the boy was 15, the boy would be looking at a custodial sentence, and would quite probably end up on the sex offenders register.

    Possibly. That would seem sensible. I know someone who has legal custody of their grandchild because the natural mother demonstrated that she was unfit as a parent. The arrangement works well because nobody loses contact with their flesh and blood, but the child is looked after by family members that are more able to do so.

    I don't know that we can point the finger at the parents. Regardless of our upbringing we all have our own ideas about who would be acceptable as a partner and who wouldn't, and thankfully the vast majority of people would rule out someone who was only 12 years old.
     
  15. pete

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    I suspect the pair of them will go on to have large amouts of illegitimate child off spring with anyone that comes their way.

    And I will end up paying for them.
     
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