Care Homes

That's great news Strongy. She chose it so that's a plus. Hoping it works out well, please keep us posted. It'll be our turn soon enough - time goes by so quickly now,
Jenny

 

Two (sometimes different) 'carers' a day with one microwaved meal a day would be what she would have to face every day if she stayed in her bungalow with hardly any visitors, she realised that and definitely wanted to go, hopefully she will settle down and enjoy being there especially over Xmas and New Year.
We could be doing this all over again if she doesn't like it there!!! and one day possibly with my mum too.

 

Aunt will have plenty of company in her new home and it will be nice for her to get used to familiar faces..

That's another thing that gets my goat these days and that's the lack of continuity of care in the community with changing faces on many visits

 

I agree Loli, it's frustrating for many good carers too. I know loads that are desperate to get out, with poor pay and unrealistic expectations being cited but mostly they are cut up by the lack of time they have to be with the folk they are meant to care for.
It's tragic that care is so undervalued.

 

well said Adendoll,
Jenny

 

Pleased to hear you got somewhere sorted Strongy . My Dad had a stroke 7 years ago ,major one that left him thoroughly unable to walk & talk (speech did come back but not easy for him) . When he went home there was 2 carers 3 times a day to wash dress, toilet care etc . My Mum made his meals . Then 2 years ago she went into hospital & died wihin a month of admission . I had to get Dad in for respite care ,then fulltime in a residential home . Eventually after a lot of times in hospital he needed to be in a nursing home , where I can't fault the care he receives .I don't begrudge the fact that he has to pay for the care but at just under £3,000 per month it seems a lot of money .

 

Hi Gogs haven't 'seen' you for a long time. We had hoped she might settle in this home but after this evenings call she doesn't sound happy at all and wants to leave. She may possibly be in the early stages of Dementia as she is coming out with all kinds of odds things. We will find out more on Saturday. My Mum is still living at home alone but can't get around unaided and is getting worse, another worry.
It never rains ......

 

Hiya Gogs,Although the carers and nurses do all they can for the clients I still think the prices they charge are OTT especially considering the actual one to one care the clients receive,I don't know where they get the prices from..

Strongy.You may get a better picture when you see Aunt at the weekend If she is suddenly just getting confused moments it could be down to something as simple as a urine infection or maybe dehydration.

 

There is a fluid chart.

 

My Mum had to go into a care home because there was a fire at her house, very scary at the time, apparently caused by old electric wiring, anyway the house was seriously gutted so she went into a care home, she hated it, never did really settle, depends on the person I think, Mum was always fiercely independent and there wasn't enough for her to do at the home!!

 

This can be a real problem Val, if you are used to doing everything yourself all your life, as aunt in law has and suddenly you are waited on hand and foot it can be very hard to get used to such a strange routine.
We are going again tomorrow and hope she is a little more settled than a few days ago.

 

Yes, it is, my Mum didn't particularly like most of the other residents (she made 2 friends) and quite frankly she was bored!!!

 

Back after a hectic weekend and not sure whether she will really settle or not but going back home with carers is not a practical option as for on she is partially sighted.
She will be in the home at least till New Year when we visit again and see what happens then.

 

Hi , yes still around Strongy , my Dad is back in hospital once again (4th time this year) my brothers & I get called in as he is so ill .Within a day of the various drips being in he pulls round . I go through hell everytime god love him. Enough of my ranting I hope things improve for you both .