Inconsiderate neighbours

Must be pretty tough stuff all that travelling and holidays and cutting back. [/QB]</font>[/quote]You're just going out of your way to be offensive, aren't you.
The only way we can afford to go on holiday AT ALL is because we have the house in Livorno.

 

my heart goes out to all of you who have neighbour problems, i've been there and my way out was to sell my home at a greatly reduced price and move. :(

 

Hi Mgn, sorry to hear your neighbour problem led you to take such drastic action, must have been awful.

At the moment we are in heaven as our delightful neighbours have gone to sunnier climes for the week.

Love the garden diary, I`d go for the woodland garden purely for the wildlife you would attract. Pet cemetary should be a talking point at BBQ`s. Keep up the good work!

 

Hi pip, enjoy your weeks holiday at home!!! Make the most of the peace while it lasts. I was going to suggest you get an mp3 player for when you're in the garden. I wear mine and get lost in my own world, no sounds bother me.

re us moving, at the time it was a living nightmare and if i hadnt of moved i swear either me or my b/f would have ended up in prison as the police etc were totally useless! , but you know now, it was kind of a blessing as I am in a better position now and have a better quality of life. they do say every cloud has a silver lining!

thanks about my garden and the cemetery lol! yeh i agree the woodland look is probably the better option, I'm going to try and get that effect... i hope. I havnt a clue really just learning as I go along.

 

i just wanted a quiet place to have a moan and here is perfect as i've been quite upset today.

I live in scotland but i'm english (and proud of it!) but i've had some racist comments over my few years of living here. i probably have more scots blood going back than some natives have! why do people have to be so nasty about where a person is from?
I also didnt tell the whole truth about it being a silver lining living here and it ended with an argument and lots of shouting today.

Nothing major just trouble with a neighbours kid. He's shot one of those air guns at my window late at night, has grafitied on my door and i cant keep him and his mates off my drive. One of his friends broke one of my side doors so my b/f made a new one only to have grafitie on it. His mum is of no use and she said 'he is not the problem here and he's just a boy' (meaning i am the problem for saying it'll be the police next time, and wanting him to stop trespassing and destroying my property!)
I hate ill feeling between neighbours, but i moved here to escape worse, but still i cant find no peace - i mean is it too much to ask for? where do i move to next??? Wales?
I am doing my garden up so I have a place outside, somewhere to relax, but today it just felt like a place to wait for them coming back and coming on my property.
I already have to have a bicycle lock on my garden gate because they would be in it and i've had things stolen.
I dont feel like I belong anywhere in this world. I've moved miles from my family just to live peacefully but because of one rotten egg i feel like i want to sell up, i feel so depressed and sick to the stomache.
I even suggested to my b/f we buy a field and have some static caravans in it then at least we wont have anyone to bother us. he wants to buy an island!
So part of me now feels like i am just doing my garden up with the purpose of making it sellable - it's not a nice feeling.

 

What an absolute nightmare this must be for you and your boyfriend Mgn!!!
What makes it worse is the fact that you have left family behind to escape these sort of people in the past. Where do people get off when it comes to upsetting ordinary folk who just want a quiet life?
The thought of you now seeing your garden change from being your little peace of heaven into a place where you sit and wait for the next `attack` from the local thugs,is disgusting. Words fail me and I just don`t know what to say.
It would be easy for me,and anybody else reading this,to say, `hang on in there,stand your ground and don`t give in` but it isn`t as easy as that is it.
The fact that you are feeling ill is a concern. Nobody has the right to detrementally affect somebodys life with their actions and the parents should really be dealing with the little s***s, but, as so often heard, the parents have little control or don`t care what their kids are up to. The police regard them as too much paperwork and don`t want the hassle. It is then left to joe public to stand up and be counted. I personnally wouldn`t confront a group of youths,to be honest with you I really don`t know what I would do if I was in your situation. My heart really goes out to you and your boyfriend and both me and mrs pip hope that you can resolve the situation without having to sell up and move on again.
The very best of luck.

 

Hi mgn,

You will have seen from my photo's in the other post that I an quite chuffed with my patio and have plans for the rest but in this post you will read about the problems I (and the others) are having with a neighbour.

I have had the same thoughts as you, I sometimes look at my house and think what is the point of improving it in these circumstances? As I live alone I will try polite reasoning once or twice and then I will do whatever it takes within legal limits. My neighbours ignored me and swore at me which made me so furious I marched round immediately and confronted the male for speaking to me that way and disrespecting my property. That had an effect for a week or so, the next time I made it perfectly clear I knew exactly where I stood legally and threatened him from action from the police and sspca and anyone else I could possibly think of to wipe the floor with him and I have to admit I chose to respond sharing the same kind of words he had used previously.

I think I suddenly got furious that I was living with people like that and I refuse to do it any longer. My house, my garden, my life.

Phew - there's my rant! Contact your council with regards to Community Officer's, start a diary with times, details, photo's of damage etc (v important). Call the police when damage occurs so that evidence can be collected, secure your property and if the little b**t***s do intrude try a water gun!

These people are generally thick, selfish and ignorant and from now on I will not be at the mercy of their ill mannered actions.

Now to really cheer you up have another look at the photo's I posted of my "main mess" and picture me with my tools - a strimmer, a fork and secateurs! After about five minutes looking at it I generally retire to the patio with a gardening magazine and a glass of wine

TO

 

Hi pip, they are only 10 yrs old, but this has been going on for the past 3 years.
One neighbour had her greenhouse glass broken, he was involved in arson at a school too - he's going to end up in jail by the time he turns 16. He's got no respect for anyones property - he thinks he has a right to do and go where he wants - and his mother backs him up when confronted - she's the main problem by doing nothing (there is no dad)but her son is everybodies problem. 2 sets of neighbours have moved through them. and yes i miss my family, they live 250 miles away and i'm lucky if i see them once a month, then come the winter it can be 4 months without a visit, and i was always very close to my mum - i didnt think i'd ever move away, and now i'm priced out of the market to go back.

Anyway, we both snubbed her today (the mum) - my b/f has done loads of favours for her too over the last few years, but he's said as far he's concerned she doesnt exsist now, so next time she wants anything she can take a running jump.
They'll be the ones missing out in the end - not us.

my mum told me to ignore them all, but to stay and fight this time, not move, and after a quiet day today I agree with her. I've got nice place here that i own - hers is council which means unlike last time i have a good lever with the council. the last time the problem people had private rent and the council had their hands tied and couldnt do anything to help.

tiggs, they do tend to bring you down to their level, i try to remain calm but i'm afraid i just end up shouting my head off at them as i believe thats all they understand!
My b/f remains calm and tries to fight fire with water, but yesterday he lost his rag too, he said at one point he just wanted to lay into the lot of them and thats so unlike him, but he's seen me crying as it all seems like it's going to get worse over time.

i think when you say, my house, my garden, my life - it's spot on! and is motivational!!!!
i am going to use that as a mantra next time anything happens (and it is bound to as there is no getting through to these people)

Anyway something good has come out of it in a way, it has made me more determined to write the book i have had in me but never wrote! Once i've tackled my weight (12lbs to go) and my garden (�£�£�£'s to go!) then i am going to devote my time to that and who knows maybe i'll make enough one day to have the life i want, as i have got myself in a rut these past years and alot of that has been down to not finding any peace.

And tiggs, looking at it wont make the mess disappear (just giving you a tip there
you should draw pictures of your garden, how it will be - i find that more rewarding than just looking, but just as useless.... :D

 

Actually I quite enjoy retiring to the patio with a glass of wine!!

TO

 

SunshineP I too have the trampoline and kids to match! :D Our's is next to a church wall and nothing else so I don't have to worry about the neighbours ,which I would! :rolleyes:
Your boys need to have some space to do their thing, whithin reason

All we need is for eveyone to be considerate and then we could have older people teaching younger people what to do and help the enviroment

Sorry if I sound

 

All we need is for eveyone to be considerate and then we could have older people teaching younger people what to do and help the enviroment

younger people arent interested in anything older people have to say is the problem - i get told to bog off - kids today (haha i sound about 90 huh?) really dont have any respect for anyone or anything these days, and neither do their parents (the problem families that is - not all, but there are alot of them!)

anyway my developments are i had my hut and garage keys stolen out of the lock on saturday , so had to buy all new padlocks and the garden is now on cctv - i am going to have a padlock put on my drive too, have that on cctv too and may even have the front on cctv too!!
and we have decided that we wont be settling down here -instead we are getting the whole place done up in order to get the best price one day and settle either in england or the borders on the east, but we arent going to be chased, we'll do things right this time and move to where we know, and we know there wont be anything shared - no more living above or below anyone ever again - it just doesnt work well for us.

 

anthea you have the right idea, those are the best neighbours!!!!

 

mgn come over to the east coast. On the whole we are much more civilised My nightmare neighbour is originally from the west coast so what does that tell you?

It is really hard I know as we thought about selling up too but just can't afford to. Our neighbour has allegedlly sold his dump and is moving to the Czech Republic...still not far enough!

Good luck

 

Sorry to hear of your ongoing problems mgn, sometimes enough is enough and it is time to act in your best interests and hanging around there isn`t a good option.

You both deserve to be happy and I hope you are in your new place.

I live out west Anthea :D :D

Finally, we had our house valued today, not bad, worth more than we thought . The neighbours haven`t won it`s stage one of "The pips will live in Spain" plan

 

Who want's to start a commune!?!

Peace, quiet and fresh fruit and veg guaranteed.

:D TO