My Mum Passed Away

Then no wonder you have adopted her, she is a keeper! They do *know* I'm in no doubt of it. And she will bring you much comfort in the months ahead.

I'm sure Maya will flourish and reach her full potential in your caring hands; she will reward you with much love and loyalty and will be there when you are in the most need of comfort. She will understand.

 

I agree with "M" and how lovely that Maya sat by your Mums feet, they do know

So glad that you have had an opportunity to planted your primroses and I am sure that they will give you comfort ever year.

 

Hi CJ,
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
My thoughts go to you and your family at this sad time.

It's just coming up to 2 years since we lost my dad, the first few months are hard but you will start to feel better and the memories will grow strong.

The Primroses are a wonderful idea. We planted a Willow for my dad as my mom said that he always looked out for them in the Spring.

All the best

Anthony

 

My Mum and I quite often spoke about how I'd do the front garden for her. The back garden was to be mine for growing things in and the front garden was for her.
It's just a narrow strip up the side of the house as we (I ) live in an upstairs maisonette. It is approximately 2m wide by about 18 - 20m long, and has the feel of a woodland clearing. Along the fence between our garden and next door's, there are a few shrubs and a eucalyptus tree which my Gran had planted about 25 - 30 years ago.
The line of shrubs, in order from our door to the end of the front garden are -
Cherry laurel, photinia, buddleia, holly, pieris then the eucalyptus at the far end. There are also a couple of small beech saplings between the holly and the eucalyptus.
My Mum also had a clump of day lilies and a gorgeous red paeonia, and there is a clump of crocosmia "Lucifer" beside the eucalyptus. Oh, and I discovered a white campanula persicifolia growing just in front of the crocosmia last summer.
Mum and I always spoke about how I'd plant some woodland perennials there to make the front garden feel like the edge of a woodland or a woodland clearing.
My Mum loved woodland, and had asked for her ashes to be scattered in a nearby forest. I promised her that I would do that for her.

 

May I offer my condolences CJ. A terrible time with hurt. I hope your new pup can help ease the pain in time.

 

So sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you. x

 

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On the Eve of Mothers Day @CreakyJoints know that your in my thoughts and prayers.
Been thinking of you all night and day and hoped that this link might help ease tomorrow
for you and your dear sister
I too will be struggling on Mothers Day but draw strength from the lovely ideas below.
I particularly like the 1st idea - "Bubbles on the wind"
Sending much love your way ...God Bless from Bee x


http://www.winstonswish.org.uk/remembering-special-occasions/
Winston’s Wish Young Ambassador Liv Kyte, whose mum died in 2007, talks about how she spends Mother’s Day and how she remembers those special moments:

“Mother’s Day is never an easy time of year for me. Like most events throughout the year – birthdays, Christmas etc. there will always be that one person who is missing. But there’s no reason why you can’t turn that into a happy feeling rather than a sad one.
I lost my mum to cancer just before Christmas in 2007. When these events are looming in my family we have learned that the best way to keep smiles on our faces (as we know that’s what she would have wanted) is to be together. Having a close group of family or friends around you means you can remember together and keep each other’s spirits high.
With Mother’s Day coming up there are constant reminders – TV adverts and billboards and every shop is filled with cards and teddy bears. Every time I see these I picture my mum smiling back at me and remember some of the best Mother’s Days we had. This makes me feel lucky that we had those times together instead of being sad that she isn’t here.
On the actual day I will always be with my sister. There are lots of ways people find useful to remember their loved one and we most enjoy looking at photos! Before my mum died she was so determined to create strong and lasting memories for us as we grew older that she completed a photo album for every year of our lives. There’s nothing more effective to spark a happy emotion than a picture of you and your mum.
We will talk about fun things we did together, holidays and her silly humour. Even her annoying habits at times because they make us laugh now and hey, she was only human! We also have a memory box full of old cards and memorabilia of times we spent together. As my mum was fighting cancer for seven years she had the time to create these albums and boxes for us. If you don’t already have one I would definitely recommend getting a box, a tin or a book and filling it with whatever items bring back happy memories for you.
As well as all this we try to remember that if we are feeling sad and low that it doesn’t matter, it’s natural and the best remedy is to cuddle up on a comfy sofa with a duvet and one of her favourite movies – Father of the Bride – and a good cup of tea!”

• Blow some bubbles and send her your love on the wind
• You could buy a special candle and light it on Mother’s Day and other special days that remind you of her.
• How about making a Mother’s Day card and displaying it somewhere special?
• You could mark the day by doing something special e.g. tying a special message to a helium balloon (make sure it’s biodegradable) and watch it soar into the sky
• Plant some bulbs or a shrub in a place that holds special memories of your mum
• Eat her favourite meal – Risotto? Roast dinner? Curry?
• Listen to her favourite music, or music that reminds you of her
• Ask your nan or granddad for their memories of mum as a little girl, and/or your dad for his memories of when he and mum met
• Write her a letter or a poem; maybe you could start with something like ‘I have one thing I’d like to tell you…’
• On Mother’s Day itself, remember to look after yourself. If things become a bit too much, you could always find a way to take a breather. Give yourself permission to not be OK and, equally, to have fun and smile.
• To find out more about the vital work of Winston’s Wish please visit www.winstonswish.org.uk or call 01242 515 157.

 

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.